handing off the torch

My mom came in to take my spot in helping Gam recover. We both agree that Gam needs someone to assist her in her everyday activities. She can no longer drive, shop, clean - let alone walk on her own. Yet she is insistant that she can. My mom got a little fed up with her poor attitude and said fine - then let's see how you do for 24 hours. It definitely confirmed she needs help. Gam thinks though that Denise, her oldest child, will take care of her. Last time Gam visited the Big Island and she and Keoki went to visit Denise - she didn't even let Gam into the house to use the bathroom. And to think - Gam doles out endless amounts of cash to her to sustain her lifestyle and she won't even let her in the house? How can Gam think that Denise will take care of her?

Shannon said she felt up to the task to take care of Gam. Mom's going to come home for a week and then return to see how things are going. What really needs to be done is she needs to go into a home. She's been a bear to mom - resisting any sort of change whatsoever. My mom is having a difficult time with her - but what else is new? We'll see what pans out in the next couple of days. Yikes - I'm glad I was able to escape before the shit really hit the fan.